I awake to the jarring melody of my alarm. It is 5:30 am, but I am not going to go back to sleep today. My heart drums with excitement as I sneak out to the living room, where I find my father preparing decorations and my mother heating up an enormous pot of miyeok-guk. Twenty minutes later, we are ready. Cake in my hands, we creep into the bedroom across the hall where my brother sleeps. Everything is perfect. For four mornings every year, my family wakes up at the crack of dawn to celebrate each of our birthdays. I don’t know when or why we began this tradition, but ever since, birthday mornings are the biggest celebration of the day. We have developed an unspoken routine and roles which we take on with earnesty. The preparation consists of: Setting up the living room We hang up a string of balloon letters which spell out “happy birthday” and tape them to the top of the fireplace Setting the kitchen Cooked the day before...
At nine years old I was given a label that was entirely unfamiliar to me: the new kid. Having attended the same school since daycare and living in the same neighborhood since birth, I was accustomed to being a perfect piece in the puzzle of my communities. But for the first time, I was an anomaly among an already perfected design. Nevertheless, my time at the dance studio became the highlight of my days. Starting an activity at nine years old may not seem too unusual for most people, but many dancers begin their careers at a very young age. While my peers were stretching and training at the ages of two and three, I was in my living room putting on poorly choreographed shows for my mom. When I finally took my first real dance lesson, I towered above the younger girls in the beginners ballet class. After joining the competitive dance company, I struggled to assimilate with the tight knit community. But while I was unused to some aspects of the social structure of the stud...